Frequently Asked Questions

 
 

Just the FAQ's please....

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How do I know if it's time to see a therapist? 

Well, since you are reading this it's a good chance you have been exploring the possibility of therapy for some time now.  Ask yourself these questions:  Are you feeling stuck in life like you just can't move forward?  Society tells us to "pull up our boots and move on"  Do you feel like your boots straps have broken... a long time ago? Are you having flashbacks, unexplained headaches or stomach aches?  All of these might just be symptoms of unresolved issues associated with trauma. 

Listen to the little nudge inside you.  Are you ready to make the first step?  Remember, resilience begins with you.     

Why Do I need a therapist? can't I do this alone? can't i just talk to a friend or family member?

Those closest to us often have a difficult time being objective.  They are in the trenches with you day-in and day-out.  Their own "stuff" often gets triggered and they respond to their own triggers, which might just trigger you.  It is a natural cycle that can be played out in your most intimate relationships.  A trained therapist is interested in helping you find your own path to healing, putting aside their own personal goals for your greater growth.  

What are the benefits of therapy

According to the Huffington Post article, 4 Ways Everyone Can Benefit From Therapy working with a trained professional can help in the following ways: Verbalizing your feelings can have a significant positive impact on the brain.  Talking with a therapist can help you find purpose and meaning.  They can assist you find solutions to your problems.  And, they can help you handle your emotions by developing coping skills. This is a small list of the benefits of therapy.  People who have actively participated in therapy often report a greater happiness, a sense of freedom, an increase of positive self-esteem and a general feelings of wholeness.   

https://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/08/07/benefits-of-therapy-and-life-coaches_n_5635389.html

How does therapy work

Talk Therapy, or psychotherapy, is an open and honest dialogue between two or more people with a therapist that leads to greater resilience.  It is my job to provide a safe and secure environment where you can explore areas you have "tucked inside" for a very long time.  Connection is the key to good therapy.  Connection to yourself in a deep and authentic way, and connection with a therapist to experience the essential safety and security you need to heal.   It has been said the biggest contributing factor to successful therapy is the therapeutic relationship.  

 

how will i know if you are the right therapist for me? 

You really need to meet me face-to-face in order to get a good idea of what I’m like as a person and as a professional. At our first meeting you should keep these questions in mind:How easy is it to talk to her?

  • Does she seem like somebody I could trust?
  • Is she really listening to me?
  • Does she seem confident and competent?
  • Do I feel connected with her?
  • Could I ever show this person the deepest, ugliest parts of myself?

How long does therapy last? 

Western medicine and insurance companies often dictate this questions by the value they place on mental health treatment.  Often, they designate 3-6 sessions for PTSD, depression, and anxiety... but healing rarely occurs in 3-6 sessions.  This should be dictated by the client therapist relationship, not by insurance handlers who know nothing about you or or life circumstances.    With that in mind, here's how you will gain the most benefit from therapy.

1. Look at the money you spend on therapy as an investment in your future. Your mental health is worth more than gold itself.  

2. Be an active participant to your fullest capacity. Your therapy will take work - on your part and on mine. If you don't put honest effort forward you won't feel as if you are getting your money's worth and you will likely resent the cost.

How long is a typical session? 

Fifty minutes. Sometimes people schedule 1.5 sessions, which is 75 minutes, or a double session which is 1 hour and 40 minutes. These longer sessions work really well for couple

What is a marriage and family therapist? 

Marriage and Family Therapists (MFTs) are relationship specialists who treat persons involved in interpersonal relationships. They are trained to assess, diagnose and treat individuals, couples, families and groups to achieve more adequate, satisfying and productive marriage, family and interpersonal relationships. 

is my CONFIDENTIALLY completely protected?

Yes. By law I am bound to protect your confidentiality. The exceptions to this are related to child or elder abuse, a threat to harm another person or if you are in danger of self harm. If you want to use a third party payer to pay for therapy it will be necessary to provide the information required by your insurance company which will likely include a diagnosis. If this is the case I will discuss with you what is disclosed to an insurer